Frequently Asked Questions

What is Lives of Doctors' Wives Foundation (LDWF) ?

LDWF is a foundation created as an answer to the Lives of Doctors’ Wives Facebook group. In 2009, Melisa Mons realized that there was a need for a support group dedicated to females married to MD/DOs. As a result, LDW was born. In 2015, the Board of Directors came together along with countless volunteers to create LDWF and create an official organization to expand our reach.

Why did you start LDWF?

We started LDWF to create a nonprofit to support fellow women attached to MDs and DOs. We wanted to be able to create a lasting impact in our community and help others along the journey.

Who runs LDWF?

LDWF’s Board of Directors currently consists of four members. In addition to the four board members, there are countless volunteers who have dedicated their own time and energy into bringing this project together.

How were board members chosen?

Board members were chosen based on their involvement in the Facebook group and their ability to help run the foundation in the best way possible. Members of the board have a track record of running and helping create the LDW Facebook group you see today.

Are volunteers of LDWF paid?

Only with the knowledge that they are helping out another physician family! Other than that, all our volunteers are just that– VOLUNTEERS! Somehow, we got incredibly lucky that so many women with an unquantifiable amount of talent have stepped up to the plate and really brought our foundation to life!

Don't doctors make a lot of money? Why do they need financial help?

Once doctors have completed training, which takes between over 12 years to complete, they come out with $200,000-$500,000 in educational debt from medical school.

After residency, medical school graduates get matched to residency programs for 3-7 years. During those years, salaries are meager and their debt burden from medical school continues to accrue. They work 80 hours on average a week, study for hours afterward, and often times they stay longer to ensure their patients receive the best care! During these years where doctors make meager salaries, they are also expected to study for boards (and pay the hefty fees!), pay for licensing, and travel/interview costs (which alone could add up to $10k+!).

Many residents go on to a fellowship to further train and study in their subspecialty. During these years, the salary is also meager and the hours still long and taxing. After paying medical school debts, fees to become a physician, and taxes, doctors are left with very little money to support their families.

Once doctors complete training, they do make a generous salary, however, they still work long hours, holidays, and weekends. Doctors continue to train for the rest of their career and consistently take exams to be board certified. They also pay down their student loan debt which can be thousands per month in payments! Additionally, many doctors deal with the emotional stress of being a physician and losing patients.

Where does my money go?

The vast majority of your money goes toward any one of our various programs– ANGEL TREE, ANGEL FOOD CAKE, LDWGTG, Medical New Year, Pizza Bandit, etc! To find out more about these programs, click here.

We do of course allot a small percentage of your donation toward overhead and administrative expenses. However, we try to keep this amount to a bare minimum!

How are recipients chosen?

Recipients are chosen for eligibility based on our application. Applications are either filled out by the requesting member or they may be filled out by a nominator. All completed forms will be reviewed periodically by the Board of Directors and voted on. Forms will include personal information as well as a short essay with background information.

Is my donation tax exempt?

Yes! we have been officially approved by the IRS as a 501 (c)3 non-profit organization.

How can I get involved?

There are many ways to get involved. We are always looking for volunteers to help us by donating their time. Donations in kind are always helpful and welcome. Please click here to read more about how to give back.

What are the different programs offered by LDWF?

LDWF offers a variety of programs and we are always thinking of new ways to reach out into the community! Click here to see a list of different programs along with a short description.

Can I join the LDW Facebook group?

We would love to have new members! Currently, the closed Facebook group is open to any female attached to or partnered with an MD or DO student, resident, attending, or practicing physician. At this time we do not accept DNP, PhD, DDS, or OD candidates. We do accept OMFS if they are in a dual DDS/MD or DDS/DO program.  Click here to join our group.

I still have questions. Where can I get answers?

We would love to answer them! Please send an email to